What happens when the party ends?
Around this time of the year, there are many parties. Family and friends fill up the room. You guys catch up, laugh, and have a great time. Strangers turn into best friends. Drinks are poured. Amazing food gets shared. Everything’s good.
There’s always a party to attend during the holidays. There’s always something brewing. There’s never a dull moment..
What happens when you’re alone? What do you do when the guests leave?
I was reading Zen Habits and Leo really nailed with his thoughts on being alone.
“And this is the cause of our misery: to avoid this fear of being alone, we will socialize endlessly, including on social networks and email. To avoid being alone, we’ll end up with someone who isn’t really good for us, just to have someone to cling to, someone to rely on. We’ll eat junk food or shop to comfort ourselves, because these things are replacements for love.” — Leo Babauta
My biggest fear in life is that one day the party is going to end and I’m going to have to grow up. I worry about growing old and everyone moving on.
Just the other day after my birthday party ended, I woke up and had a beer in the hotel lobby (of course I had to get a suite for my birthday). I had a credit from the hotel, but I also wanted the party to go on. I didn’t want the festivities to end yet. I convinced my friends to have a final drink with me.
[Must read: Is FOMO hurting your finances?]
What happens when the party ends? What do you do when you feel bored?
You have to set a new goal.
The reason that you’re bored is because you have no goals or have already accomplished your goals.
- Did you pay off your debt?
- Did you save up the money for that trip?
- Did you get that new job?
- Did you finish college?
I want to congratulate you and buy you a beer. You deserve it. You worked hard and you need to celebrate your accomplishments.
However, you have got to remember that you need to keep on moving forward.
When one party ends, it’s time to plan the next one. I personally always try to have a trip planned for months in advance so that I have something to look forward to. I also try to set a personal goal (learn a new language or wrestle in my first wrestling match).
With a new goal in mind, the loneliness fades and you set your mind toward this task.
What will your next bold goal be? Will you run a half-marathon? Will you find a beautiful girlfriend? Will you climb out of debt?
[Helpful article: The cure for boredom.]
Keep busy with shit that matters.
I’m not for idly pretending to be busy. I just don’t want you to be bored and lonely.
Time is too precious to waste. Being lonely or bored happens when you have nothing to do. So naturally you spend all day on Facebook. This happens to me far too often!
Wasting time does NOT involve:
- Doing things you enjoy.
- Spending time with friends/family.
- Putting your phone away at a party.
- Working mercilessly towards your goals.
Wasting time does involve:
- Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself.
- Playing video games.
- Watch reruns.
- Staying in 24/7.
- Refreshing social media hoping for something new to happen.
Which one are you doing?
Always watch your company.
“Success in any field, but especially in business is about working with people, not against them.” — Keith Ferrazzi
Do you look forward to seeing your friends? Is it ever a hassle?
When you have completely wild, motivated and awesome people around you, you look forward to the next party. It’s all that you think about. When the party ends, you just think about the next one. If you ever check out my Facebook, it’s all just pictures of me having fun with friends.
The following quote rings true to me…
“It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m that matter.” — Marlene Dietrich
You need more friends that you can call at 4 in the morning.
Enjoy your holidays. The party never ends. It just takes a hiatus once in a while. There’s nothing wrong with a little break. I promise you that many more good times are around the corner. Keep on working hard, stacking your money away, and having fun.
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.” — Eleanor Roosevelt